
In designing the chat application for MyPsych.com (not live) we researched different online emotional communication tools. With the goal of giving people the ability to communicate enough emotion, synchronously without cluttering up the screen.
Emotional comms
People will always find ways to communicate emotion given the tools available to them. Just think, a deaf and blind person is completely capable of emotional communication, it’s just a bit differently to what an able bodied person is used to. In this context, human creativity is key.
I recently saw a tweet from someone saying that they thought their emails are becoming considerably shorter they have been twittering a lot. I agree, I am learning how to communicate meaning very well with this constrained medium that only has 140 characters available per ‘tweet’. I think that is a pretty easy thing to learn, particularly as I have been Texting for ages and am also using Skype more and can’t be bothered typing so much. However emotional communication is a little more complex.
My son was born with some basic emotional communication tools
- Crying
- Facial expressions (Screwing up his mouth when he’s hungry)
- Physical expressions (Clenching his fists when he is tired)
- The list goes on.
As a child he is building on these basic emotional expressions as he learns that he has a body and can interact with the world. He will also learn how to talk and, more importantly, learn what reaction particular emotional expressions get him in social situations he is involved in or saw on TV or in books (his culture). This emotional stir fry becomes quite complex as he gets older and he experience more interactions with more and more people. Remember, psychologists make lots of money by helping people to break down the ingredients of theirs and others emotional soup(s).
With the evolution of the Internet this process of learning about emotional communication has started over again!
Being emotional online

Complex emotions are easily communicated online. But do you really know all the tricks?
Can you believe emoticons have been around since 1912? Ambrose Bierce proposed a new punctuation device for typewriter called a “snigger point,” a smiling face represented by \__/!, to connote jocularity. This is discussed in this great New York Times article from July 2007?
A 2007 study of 40000 Yahoo Messenger users showed that 82% of users used emoticons in their conversations!
Emotional expression online is just as complex as face-to-face. If we are talking about text based communication we need to think about Prosody - the rhythmic and intonational aspect of language.
To my mind, online emotional expression skill development has two stages:
Habitual - When I started using text communications like chat, I habitually used expressive techniques that felt right. I learned them from writing, reading, watching and interacting offline, for example:
- I change my typing speed as I am more interested or concerned with the other person or people I’m talking to
- I turn off Skype when I get pissed with someone
- I use emotional language relevant to the context of my communication
- Content, plus I consider what I am writing so that it has the impact I want
Learned - During my early web conversations I used things that I knew from Word processing and I noticed in the interface to enhance my emotional communications. As I have become more involved in online comms these have developed. As follows:
- Bold, Italics, Underline, combinations, colour, SIZE, format.
- uʍopǝpısdn
- Keyboard controlled - Abbrviatns, CAPS, F#&k, !!, ??
- Emoticons. We should know most of the standard ones
I even found a list of complex text base emoticons here.
Complex keyboard use - S P A C E S - dOn’T you GGGEEETTT it!?
- Emotional insertions like my Twitter friend @silkcharm. Here’s an excerpt:
i’d buy a vibrating paddle *saucy wink*
I’m sure there are others that I don’t know about, but they are useless unless I have the time to search for them or see someone else using them. It is critical that when designers create new tools that they use techniques of making it blatantly clear what they are offering.
With the emoticons in this blogging software I can’t immediately find the smiley one! There are so many to choose fun. Really irritating!
Skype is pretty overloaded too! They do have a little tip at the bottom of the popup window to suggest what the emoticon might mean.
GetSatisfaction have solved this overload problem with a great instructional design technique that encourages people to use text to describe a smiley, like:
They even make suggestions of what the smiley might mean!
This approach can certainly work but it does take up a lot of space and people are generally not engaged in synchronous communication.
With MyPsych.com we decided that we must keep the interface simple as possible and on one screen. So as not to distract from the therapy session. This meant that we have only 4 emoticons - a square - that everyone is completely clear on what they mean. We also added simple text formatting to allow prosody.